3) Managing flow
Focus on the area between overburdening and being underchallenged.

4) Making process policies explicit
What deal do you make with yourself? What is your commitment for a changed behavior?
If you fail often: Start with forgiving yourself and looking for other perspectives.

5) Implementing Feedback Loops
Schedule dates for reflection. How do you measure success? Talk to others, if they see a change in you.

6) Improving collaboratively, evolving experimentally:
This is tightly connected to feedback loops. You can ask others for help, e.g. your husband; try experiments; if they fail try other experiments!

Sebastian Schlenker